How positive memories help us deal with present day stress.
Every time I go to visit my mum I spend time in the hallway looking at the photo gallery up on the wall and recalling the good old days. It gives me a real buzz and when I’m feeling stressed - it helps…a lot. So, what does the science say?
Stress - Nobody’s immune
We all experience stress. What’s stressful for one person can be different for another, but ultimately, it’s a normal part of human functioning. How we interpret stress and how much we’re impacted by it depends on many factors, including the resources we have to cope with it.
Why it matters
There are times when stress can be severe, sending our brains into a narrow tunnel of negative feelings and thoughts that limit our ability to concentrate and make good decisions. Negative thoughts themselves are not bad; they’re our body's way of saying, “Hey, here’s something I want you to pay attention to”, and in fact, they help us take action when we need to. But they can also be disabling and destructive for us, especially if they prevent us from moving forward in our lives or, worse still, create a downward spiral leading to psychological distress or mental illness.
Here’s an experiment.
Think of a time when events in your life have been really stressful. Notice how it makes you feel and how you begin to relive the experience again just by recalling it?
The same is true if you do the opposite.
Research has found positive reminiscence or savouring positive events from our past helps us break free from the narrow mindset of acute stress, into a more open state of wellbeing. Other studies show people facing really significant stress, like recovery from substance use, also benefit from remembering and savouring the past when combined with therapy.
How it works
Re-living our most positive experiences through memory recall can;
Boost our wellbeing by raising positive emotion
Help us cope better in the moment
Restore and protect our mental health
Dampen our cortisol (stress hormone) response
Assist us to regulate our emotions
Empower us to be more resilient and in control
Positive Reminiscence - Let’s do it!
Think about a time in the past when you felt good. Not just OK, but really really good!
Where were you? - Was it a party, a holiday, a milestone, a peaceful moment?
Who were you with? - Friends, family, strangers, colleagues or by yourself?
Take some deep breaths, close your eyes and see if you can create a mental picture in your mind.
What makes this memory stand out for you?
Your mind might start wandering, just gently bring it back to the scene.
How would you describe your feelings from that time?
What are you noticing about your body right now?
You might like to find a picture of that memory, write about it or find something that represents it. You could even capture it on your mobile phone and keep it with you.
Try this for 10 minutes each day for a week and see how it works for you. The worst that can happen is you end up with a bunch of photo memories to share with your friends. And that has huge wellbeing benefits too!
Stay safe and well,
Kim
References
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Hoeppner, B. B., Schick, M. R., Carlon, H., & Hoeppner, S. S. (2019). Do self-administered positive psychology exercises work in persons in recovery from problematic substance use? An online randomized survey. Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment, 99, 16–23. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsat.2019.01.006
Cabaco, A. S., Castillo-Riedel, E., Alvelais-Alarcon, M., Mejia-Ramirez, M., & Rueda, A. V. (2023). Enhancement of quality of life in older people through positive reminiscence intervention: a pilot study. Psicología Conductual, 31(1), 197–215. https://doi.org/10.51668/bp.8323112n
Speer, M. E., & Delgado, M. R. (2017). Reminiscing about positive memories buffers acute stress responses. Nature Human Behaviour, 1(5). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41562-017-0093
World Health Organisation. (21 February 2023) Q&A Stress. https://www.who.int/news-room/questions-and-answers/item/stress#:~:text=Stress%20can%20be%20defined%20as,and%20threats%20in%20our%20lives